Being Happy Today

Reasons not to procrastinate:

  1. If you care about your grades at all, you will miss out on wonderful, spur-of-the-moment activities with friends. If you don’t care about grades, you will fail all of your classes.
  2. Even if you don’t think you get stressed about the things you procrastinate, you do. That stress carries over into everything you do, and impedes you from fully enjoying the moment, whether it’s a movie, marathon run, making banana pancakes, mountain climbing, or whatever else happens to be you hobby. Fact is, it sits there, gnawing a little hole in the back of your mind, and you can’t focus 100% on the now.
  3. In the end, you will not succeed in procrastination.
  4. Avoiding the problem is as good as trying to stick an elephant in the fridge. Sure, you might get lucky and have a fridge with alternate dimensions inside, or maybe it’s even a fridge of holding, but most of us don’t walk around having those in our homes now, do we?
  5. No matter what you may think, you can’t make more time in a day than there already is. There are 24 hours, no more, no less. Once each second is gone, it’s gone. There’s no getting it back. Why waste what little time there is in a day being boring, mediocre, and underachieving? Do something awesome.
  6. You can’t do anything awesome if you have a lab report, homework, or a paper due.
  7. No really, you can’t.
  8. Everyone has something they really want to do, and the only way you’re going to be able to get to what you want to do and enjoy it is if you
    • Get through all the things you have  to do
    • Do so in a timely manner, and
    • Have extra time due to good planning
  9. Life is to be enjoyed, not endured. If you’re going through every day afraid of getting out of bed, you’re probably doing something wrong. It may well be procrastinating something you know you should do, which is just stressing you, and you don’t even realize it! Do the things you know you have to so you can stop beating yourself up about how big of a failure you are – which you know isn’t true, so just stop the negativity altogether. I give you permission to.
  10. If you’re not married, you’ll have more time to date, meet awesome gals/guys, and eventually get married. If you are married, you’ll have more time to spend with your wife/husband and kids, who should be the center of your world. If they’re not, you’re doing it wrong. (Besides, who wouldn’t want to spend time with this little guy?)
  11. Putting off ’til tomorrow what you can do today is essentially deciding to put off your happiness ’til tomorrow. You may think you’re happy, but unless you’re getting rid of your stressors along the way, it’ll be hard to keep that level of happiness in the long run, and the crash will be much, much worse.
  12. You have much better things to do than worry about what you’re not doing.

So what’s new?

Well, I haven’t written absolutely anything at all in pretty much forever, so apologies to anybody who’s actually reading this. Life’s been pretty intense, but isn’t it always like that?

Anyway, I got bored today, so I decided to find a project to work on. I found something like this that I plan on building in the coming weeks. I think I’ll do a lapel mic, though. If it actually works halfway decent, it’d be sweet to use it for live shows.
Anyway, I’ll put up some photos and stuff as the work comes along.

Today could be awesome. It’s your choice.

Your choice is simple: happiness or sadness.

You can complain all you like about your situation. That won’t change it. You can think about all the things you wish you were. That won’t make you them. You can compare yourself over and over and over again to everyone you know — and everyone you don’t know — and always find yourself coming up short. You can live life relative to everything else, measuring distance relative to the landmarks around you, relative to the distance traveled, the miles covered, the milestones achieved, and the monuments left behind. You can live looking back in the rearview mirror, seeing everything disappear, or staring at the horizon ahead, always afraid of what’s coming. You can live paralyzed by insecurities and doubts, internal and external, and let yourself get caught up in perceptions of the truth, living vicariously through the criticism and negativity, letting it determine who you are. You can let your future be determined by everyone else and what they expect from you. You can be the loser. The drug addict. The drunkard. The failure. The lazy one. The fake. The melodramatic. The jerk. The quiet one. The loud one. The paranoid. The overly busy. You can let the world tell you what makes you happy. You can spend your whole life chasing the dreams you’re fed from others’ imaginations, invented so they can make a quick buck, and find, after years of chasing, that you’re nowhere near anything that matters, anything recognizable, or even anything remotely beautiful. You can live your life and be acted upon, like a prop. You can be the tool, the chump, the manipulated, the gullible. You can watch the television, day after day, channel after channel, and find that after all you’ve seen, you really aren’t any better for it. You’re still just as empty.

The choice is yours.

The only thing we really have in life is our ability to choose. To choose what we do, what we wear, what we think, and, ultimately, who we are. Some choices really don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. What color of umbrella you buy is probably not going to determine the outcome of your life. But there are choices that matter.

The first thing you need to do is understand that you can’t control everything. In fact, there’s a pretty limited scope of what you can control: your actions, reactions, thoughts, and feelings. Can you control somebody else? No. Don’t even try. Can you control the weather? Good luck.

Things will happen. Some of those things will, well, suck. Some of them will be totally awesometastic and make everything worth it and make sense. Not every day is going to get a 0 out of 10 or a 10 out of 10. Face the facts. Most days are probably somewhere in the 5-7 range. At least, for me, that’s where they fall. They’re not awesome, but they’re not terrible. They’re just days.

So what are you to do? Make excuses as to why today can’t be awesome? “It’s raining. I hate rain.” “I didn’t get my homework done, so I’m mad.” Think of it. How often do we qualify our moods on things that we have absolutely no control over? What’s the use in wasting your already short life by purposely making it worse and wasting time complaining about something that you’re never going to be able to change? Really, there isn’t. So stop complaining about things you have no control over. Be it, “So-and-so doesn’t like me! WAA!” or “I hate the cold!” or “I hate it when people do/don’t do such-and-such!”

You control your reactions. If there’s something to be done about a problem, instead of wasting time complaining, DO SOMETHING.

If you’re really bothered by people who don’t recycle, start a recycling campaign. If you wish people wouldn’t complain, start a positivism movement. If you want people to be happy, give them a reason to be happy!

You define your life. You. Yourself. Nobody else does. Not your mom. Not your dad. Not your brother or sister. Not your uncle, aunt, cousin, grandma, or grandpa. Not the bullies at school. Not your defects. Not your insecurities. Not your fears. You. You are so much more than what you think. Don’t limit yourself. Be  different. Make a difference. Make a decision. Don’t be afraid of failure. Everyone fails. Every day.

What separates the happy ones from the sad ones is that they pick themselves up and keep going. They have a dream and they stick to it. They decide they want something – something good – and they go after it with everything they are.

When’s the last time you did that?

Make the choice. Choose what you think about. Focus on what matters. On what’s good. Surround yourself  with it. Dive into it. Get away from what drags you down. As far away as possible. Choose your words wisely. Build, don’t break. Would you rather be remembered for the kind words you choose to say, or the unintentionally rude words you unthinkingly utter? The choice is yours. Today could be awesome.

A story behind every one

So I was looking over old files on my laptop, and came across this list, which consists entirely of daily lessons learned a few years back in the summer of ’08. This was around the time I had my nasty jaw surgery. Just so y’all are aware.

2008 lessons

1. It is, in fact, possible to cry so hard you laugh so hard you cry.
2. When told to be patient, be patient. Don’t whine about how it’s hard.
3. Good things take time.
4. Dancing is an effective cure for particularly severe cases of feeling blue.
5. Be grateful for pain. It means you’re alive. It means you can feel.
6. Don’t ask for more than you’re given.
7. There is in fact such a thing as too much rain.
8. When feeling particularly bad, cookies your little sister just made and pulled out of the oven taste incredible and set you back in a better, if not altogether good, mood.
9. Be grateful for everything. You don’t know what might be gone tomorrow.
10. Family is everything.
11. It is okay to laugh when things seem at their worst. It helps.
12. Taking a walk is a particularly good idea when at a loss for what to do, but particularly bad when done in sandals.
13. Friends have a habit of knowing what you need to do to cheer up a lot better than you do.
14. Do everything in your power to never go on a liquid diet, even if you wind up in a retirement home.
15. Miracles happen every day if you just slow down and take a look at what’s happening.
16. Take life as it comes to you. Doing anything else is just plain stupid.
17. Don’t ask for an answer you know isn’t coming any time soon.
18. Sometimes you have to leap before you look, and trust that things will work out when there is no way of knowing anything will.
19. Prayer works.
20. It is possible to become best friends in less than five days.
21. When one chapter closes, there’s always another one right around the corner.
22, Doors don’t always lock after closing.
23. Sing. And don’t stop.
24. Often, we don’t know the effect we have on others’ lives.
25. Girls will never not be confusing beyong all imagining.
26. Learn from the past, plan for the future, but above all else, live right now.
27. It is okay to be completely terrified, so long as you go on in spite of it.
28. Communication=good.
29. There are no such thing as coincidences. Everything happens for a reason.
30. Don’t try making up for lost time.
31. Mistakes are necessary, even when doing what’s right. Especially when.
32. Why worry about what you can’t change?
33. The stoics were right: you can control your thoughts, actions, and reactions. Beyond that, it’s out of your hands.
34. God’s way is a whole lot better than yours.
35. No matter  what you eat, if it’s the first solid thing you’ve had in nearly a month, it will make you cry.
36. Sometimes you just need to spend all day playing video games with your friends.
37. A sandwich made with Adam’s Love Substitute is not nearly as good as a sandwich made with the real thing.
38. Morphine really messes with your head.
40. Actually, just don’t be stupid.
41. It is possible for perfect strangers to completely understand each other’s lives.
42. Life is what you make of it. Choose happiness.
43. Letting go is often easier than trying to hold on.
44. Timing is just as important as everything else.
45. Say goodbye when you have to. Even if it means not seeing a friend for the next three years.
46. A world full of good intentions never fixed anything. You have to do something, and you’d darn well better do it right.
47. There will never be enough music in the world.
48. Sometimes it’s okay to make a complete fool of yourself in front of hundreds of people.
49. LTG, CTR, and don’t microwave hamsters, gerbils or other rodents. Cats are right out.
50. Great things happen in our lives to show us God knows and cares about us.
51. It’s important to understand why.
52. If you’re not asking questions, you’re not getting answers either.
53. Sometimes it takes three years to understand. When you finally do, don’t be surprised to find yourself laughing at a streetlight at ten PM on a Friday night in the middle of nowhere.
54. It is faith that makes us strong.
55. Sometimes inspiration comes in the form of a singing frog, a video game, or maybe even ice cream.
56. Sometimes, goodbye’s the only way.
57. Death is just the next great adventure, and heaven is one big group hug/dance party.
58. Don’t risk what you don’t want to lose. Don’t even think about it. Gambling is stupid for a reason.
59. When you’re afraid of the future, imagine it’s an adventure, and you’re a pirate. Problems are a lot less intimidating when you’re a pirate.
60. There are fates worse than death.
61. Fear is a friend who’s misunderstood.
62. Sometimes your parents are actually right! Who’da thunk?
63. It is possible to learn a lesson from anything in life, even baby food jars.
64. Wisdom comes from experience. Not from fortune cookies.
65. Be meek.
66. Be patient.